The Curious Case of Being Needed and Being (Easily) Replaceable

I have been a part of the Bahá’í community for a long time, and a curious phenomena has had me intrigued all these years: while the strength of the community is completely dependent on each one of us doing our best, we are, each one of us replaceable. It’s like each one of us is somewhere between Harry Potter, required to do great deeds beyond what we could even imagine, and ants working together, completely interdependent. It makes it all the more important to control one’s ego, so that we neither feel omnipotent nor impotent. Rather, our ego should be controlled in such a way that each act we make as part of the community-building process becomes potent.

The intriguing phenomenon of “Get me this. Now.” working better than “Could you please get me this?”

I noticed awhile back that when I am not in a good mood (unfortunately, it happens) and ask people for something, I get it a lot faster than when I am in a good mood.  Similarly, people do not say no to me when I am in a bad mood, whereas when I am in a good mood, people seem to have a lot more excuses to avoid doing anything.

Intriguing, is it not?

The more intriguing question is why? I have the impression that this phenomenon is related to a couple of things, including:

  • Sympathy: when one who is usually in a good mood is not doing so well, others might want to contribute to that person’s well-being by giving them the gift of going above and beyond.
  • A warped definition of power: typically, people in power are portrayed as in a perpetual foul mood. When someone is in a bad mood, one can’t help but associate, be it subconsciously, one’s colleague to a person in a position of power, to whom we never say no to.
  • Fear of confrontation: if we say no to a person in a foul mood, there is an increased chance that we will be confronted with a not-very-happy retort.

Whatever the reason may be, this phenomena does not have its place in modern-day society. It is sad that some people are often said no to, until, not receiving the support from our colleagues that we are supposed to get, our mood turns sour. Only then do we get some portion of the help we were meant to get in the first place – but at what cost?

Scare Tactics: Efficient only on Halloween?

Christmas is around the corner and with it comes the usual crack down on drinking and driving. Driving when under the influence is a terribly irresponsible act that put too many others in danger. But is the way of decreasing drinking and driving through scare tactics really efficient?

Perhaps an innovative way of preventing drinking and driving is by analyzing why people who do not drink and drive choose the safer, more responsible path. And underlying the sense of responsibility will most probably be found a deep respect for human life, the kind that would make it unthinkable to put it at risk.

I wonder what would happen if the money put into drinking and driving scare campaigns went instead into developing community service projects for those caught drinking and driving. Not your typical, clean-the-highway community service, but rather one that contribute to the long-term, step by step improvement of the community: tutoring children in a certain subject, playing games with the elderly, delivering groceries to the sick, the elderly or to mothers with too much to do. Maybe the bonds created between the people in a community would become so strong that putting them in danger by drinking and driving would be unfathomable?

And a second review to “The Spirit Within Club”

I was wondering if I would continue being lucky with reviews. Although it is only the second review to The Spirit Within Club to be released, I am still incredibly grateful and really excited that it is just as overwhelmingly positive as the first one.

You can find the second review to my book here. Now please excuse me while I go squeal. Sleeping babies, I apologize in advance for waking you up.